Ann Arbor, MI USA
On Wednesday, May 12, I didn’t fly to Sydney. Instead, I had an informational interview with the owners of a local publishing company and went to a yoga class. In between the two, I scraped the side of my mother’s newly leased car against a cement pillar in a parking structure. Spatial visualization is not my forte; that’s why I don’t play chess.
“What kind of mood are you in?” I asked my mother when I picked her up from work that afternoon.
“Why, what did you do?” How do they always know when you’ve messed up? Amazingly, she took the news like a champ. I, on the other hand, took it like a complete loser.
That scratch was a sign from the universe – I had made a mistake; I had missed my plane. Except that I no longer believe in a universe that conspires against you or sends you messages disguised as minor car accidents that are clearly your fault. I do, however, believe in irrational fears.
The incident was an indication of one thing only: I am not a very good driver. (In my defense, it’s been five years since I owned a car.) My reaction to it was an indication that I’m still afraid of the same thing: failing.
To most people, my proposal to live in Australia seemed brave. Truthfully, it wasn’t. It was gutless, because there was no risk involved. I could have lain in the grass in a park for a year, staring at the sky through the leaves of the trees and I would have accomplished that goal. It was a guaranteed win, bought for the price of a one-way airline ticket and an electronic work-holiday visa.
Coming home is the truly risky endeavor, because it means that I am finally going to try to realize my life dreams; and inherent in trying is the possibility of failure. Many people want to write, very few actually become writers. In Australia, I may have been lonely, unfulfilled, and bankrupt, but my fantasies would have remained safely enshrined in my mind.
My homecoming was supposed to have been strategic, to have set a plan in motion. But things haven’t fallen neatly into place and I seem to be in a state of stasis. There have been some steps in the right direction – that meeting with the publishers, an all-day writer’s conference, and an interview for the position of Editorial Assistant for an academic journal. I even wrote a short fiction story, coincidentally about a plane crash.
However, every step seemed to bring with it a warning to turn back. The publishers reminded me that most writers don’t earn their living writing; at the conference, successful authors revealed that every day is a struggle against literary agents, book critics, and their own insecurities; and “Editorial Assistant” turned out to be a fancy title for Receptionist. Compounding my frustration, disappointment, and regret was the fact that I miss New Zealand and Argentina far more than I anticipated, and that after six weeks, I still don’t feel adjusted to life in the States.
A few years ago, while I was still living in Argentina, I visited a friend in New York during a trip to the States. When I finished moaning about how hard life was abroad, she smiled and asked, “Is having an easy life something you truly aspire to?”
“No, of course not,” I replied. I lied. My secret fantasy is that someday life will be ridiculously easy. Oh, and that there will be world peace.
I thought the path ahead would be paved with gold. Now I realize that I’ll have to bushwhack my way through a dense forest of stiff competition and self-doubt if I’m to get what I want. Faced with the truth – the overwhelming odds against me, and the undeniably hard work ahead – I didn’t recalibrate my game plan and strengthen my resolve. I lost faith. I lost the plot.
What if I don’t have what it takes? What if I’m not good enough? What if I can’t be it just because I dream it? What if anything is not possible? These questions, whether valid or absurd, made me question the point of even trying.
Fortunately, my parents don’t share these concerns, or at least they don’t state them aloud. Instead, my parents, those perennial patrons of the arts, have agreed to sponsor a summer fellowship – they will cover my living expenses so that I can dedicate the majority of my time and energy to writing. Being selected as the recipient of this generous award is an honor, but I’ve been having trouble rising to the challenge.
Frightened as I am that following my dreams will lead me to vocational school, a condo in the suburbs, and a mini-van, I am more concerned that my parents will evict me if I don’t get my act together. Apparently, I’m no longer allowed to whine or cry or remain in my pajamas until bedtime. Either I go for it or I get out of their house, hence this long overdue blog entry. Thus, I am happy to announce that I, along with all the obnoxious, self-defeating voices in my head, am the new Writer-in-Residence at my parents’ house in Michigan.